MOVING WITH KIDS
Moving home is often full of positive benefits, or, is sometimes a realistic compromise after a change in financial circumstances. Whatever the reason, adults tend to adjust to the new situations and surroundings fairly quickly. Either the home is part of a long term goal, or is in itself the achievement of a long term goal, and adults can identify with this and use it to help settle in.
Children, however, live and think very differently to adults. To them, the family home is a place of happiness, security and freedom. Their home is a place full of fun games, and good memories, and many children are reluctant to give up the home as easily an adult.
Getting them to see the benefits of the move, and all the changes it involves, before the big move can be hard; and getting them to recognise the perks once the move has happened, especially if things don’t start so well, can be just as tough.
As difficult as this process is for both you and your child, you both need to feel that you have the support of the other. Communication is the key to this matter.
Either before you make an offer on your home, or during the paperwork process, try to arrange another viewing around your new home, so your child gets to see what they have got to look forward to.
Help them with the packing of their own room. You can use the time as quality time to air out and listen to each others views on the move. This can be quite a difficult conversation for some; others are excitable, and relish the challenge and excitement ahead of them, and will not require anymore encouragement. Listen to your child, and discuss any thoughts they have in a calm manner. Talk to them about why the move is positive for both of you. Don’t make big guarantees that you both know you can’t keep to. Instead, offer realistic reassurance and support throughout.
When you reach your new home, think about treating your child to a gift for their new bedroom. You could leave the gift in their bedroom, or have it set up ready, as a surprise for when they come home from school. The gift could include new bedding sets (of their favourite theme), a nice nightlight, new furniture or even a games console. This gives them an immediate happy memory to relate to their new home, and might just be the ice breaker needed to get your child looking at the move in a different light.
If you have upgraded your home to a bigger size, and you think your child is ready to learn a bit of responsibility, you could always consider a new family pet. A dog in particular is a great pet for a child. A pet can make a great faithful friend to grow up with, and the child is taught lessons about routine and commitment. Children often talk to pets, helping them to work out niggling troublesome worries.
Be sure to spend some time with your child after the move day. Go out for a meal together, or catch a film at the cinema together, either way, spend some time investigating your new neighbourhood, and enjoying all it has to offer as a family. Be supportive, and make an effort to keep communications active.
The most common concerns children have are changing schools or losing local friends. Entering new social circles can seem very daunting to your child. Reassure them, by getting them to visit the school with you before enrolling. Once they have been at school a few weeks, and you have settled into a routine, help your child establish new friends, and arrange a sleepover, or contribute towards a kids’ day out. Again, it’s about giving them new happy memories to relate to their new home.
Communicate, and listen. Making the time and having the patience to do both will make a world of difference to you and your child.
If your time is limited, consider hiring Excalibur Los Angeles Movers to help with your packing, so you can spend time with the family helping them to enjoy the prospect and reality of the big move as much as you do.